When we were kids, a lot of times we got roped into doing things we didn't want to do. As we got older, more and more choice became our own.
In my late teens I started to notice a pattern. I learned most when I followed through on commitments. If and especially when I didn't feel like doing something, that's when I learned the most.
Learning how to only make commitments that I know I will follow through on has been a big part of the learning. Renegotiating agreements works under certain circumstances, but for the most part, I do my best to keep my word and do what I said I would. Somewhere along the way, objectives can be tweaked and course corrected... the original intent is always to see the path through.
One of the things that bums me out the most is when someone else does not keep a commitment with me. It's never the end of the world, but it really leaves a wound when someone no-shows or falls short.
I do it to. And to the best of my ability I am aware of when I miss my commitments. At that point I do whatever is necessary to be accountable for the commitment and any make-up needed to get back into harmony with those I let down.
It's not a perfect science, but it's kept me from amassing and carrying around massive amounts of guilt and shame. It's also something I practice with my daughter. She's a very sensitive human being. When I mess up I feel privileged that she's willing and able to forgive me and trust me again. Lord knows how many relationships are marred for life by parents who have yet to learn the skills of accountability and make-up.
What do you do when you break a commitment?
What do you do when you break a commitment with your child?
Have you forgiven your parents, et al, for any shortcomings they have demonstrated here?
Cheers,
Craig
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